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Hello and Welcome ,

I’m Lorna, an experienced BACP accredited psychotherapist and Mind the Gap is my practice.  It can be hard to know what to look for (beyond appropriate qualifications) or what to expect, as you embark on finding someone to work with. I hope here to give  an insight into my approach covering :

  • Mental health and how this can change just as our physical health does. 

  • A bit about me and how I work

  • What to expect from  counselling and psychotherapy, how it can help
     

 Maybe you are reading this as you are looking for support or maybe because you want to understand more about how you are feeling or maybe you don't know what you need. There can be countless reasons we don't feel  'ourselves'.

Something out of our control may happen and challenge our beliefs about the world, others or ourselves . We might become overwhelmed and loose our sense of self. We may notice patterns of behaviour which are becoming unhelpful, or recognise we regularly feel low, disconnected or anxious. Sometimes there can be an obvious trigger point, a difficult past, a loss or death, a relationship breakdown, dramatic change to circumstance , maybe a health scare or an accident or a financial crisis. Sometimes not. Either way something doesn’t ‘feel’ right .

 

 

 

 

Mental Health

Our  mental health affects our emotions, our thoughts and feelings, our ability to solve problems and overcome difficulties, our social connections, and our understanding of the world around us , not to mention our physical health. When we  are in good health 'mentally' we find it easy to think & make decisions, relate to others , to form and maintain good relationships, to feel and express different emotions and to cope with change and uncertainty.

However it is rarely as well understood as our physical health and can easily take a back seat, but just as physically things come along which affect us, the same is true mentally, though it can be harder to recognise or acknowledge

Physical symptoms are difficult to ignore. We seek help and in some cases with the right treatment it will resolve very quickly, in others the condition may be longer term and require us to find ways to adapt or manage the condition.

 

Mental health is no different.
 

Our inner experience, can  have a huge impact on our mental, physical and spiritual well- being . As the World Health Organization famously says, “There is no health without mental health.” 

When creating Mind the  Gap, I wanted to help anyone who has felt  there might be a gap.

A gap between what is going on inside and what appears to be the case from the outside which is affecting your wellbeing and stopping you feeling fulfilled and living the life you want.  

It was  born out of my experience of working with clients and recognising we are often working on the gap between

  • My past and my present  ( sometimes there can be a need for a ‘gap’  to help us live with a  traumatic past )

  • What we believe is 'expected' of us and what we believe we can do 

  • Who I was and who I am now

  • How I'm coping and how others think I'm coping   

  • Who I appear to be and who I think I am ( particularly in a professional context)

  • What I need and what I get ( often within relationships)
     

Whatever our own particular situation - it  seems true a 'gap' can widen and affect our mental health before we are even aware of it. We rely on strategies we have developed which have served us well , until we no longer can. Life does not discriminate. It can affect us all no matter our age, gender, sexuality, success, financial security, material wealth, social standing, job security, relationship status .  

 

Prolonged Stress, unexpected , emotional and difficult situations force the issue and stretch our 'gap' until it becomes too difficult to live with and it affects our state of mind. Our mental health affects our  physical health and so our mood, energy ,appetite,  behaviour , sleep, stress and  anxiety levels change. 

If any of this sounds familiar counselling can help. It can help to connect us back to our selves , bridging the gap between what our mind  fears  and what it is possible to hope  for.